MY LOT IN LIFE

My Lot in Life: My 13-year-old Daughter

MY LOT IN LIFE

My 13-year old daughter

Women's drug use also has several unique costs to both the individual and to society, given their role in reproduction. The highest prevalence of use among women, regardless of substance, occurs during the childbearing years. In fact, alarming numbers of adult women and teens continue to use alcohol, tobacco, and other drugs during pregnancy. Substance abusers often have multiple addictions; women may be using substances, especially cigarettes and alcohol, throughout the first trimester of pregnancy without knowing they are pregnant.

Drug abuse during pregnancy increases a woman's risk for a number of negative outcomes such as poor fetal growth, premature rupture of membranes, placental complications, premature delivery, and miscarriage. Likewise, the negative effects of smoking, alcohol, and other drug use on infants born to drug-using mothers are well established, and include low birth weight, preterm birth, fetal alcohol syndrome, a variety of birth defects, learning disabilities, and developmental delays. In addition, prenatal maternal smoking has been found to be associated with adolescent children's smoking, and this effect is stronger for daughters than for sons.

When I heard and found out about my 13-year old daughter I tried of odds of making significant restrictive methods and undertakings that were available to me at the time. Generally when parents encounter such situations, their immediate reaction to such items is generally negative and completely blown away.

These results in restricted behavioral patterns and undertakings, such as being grounded, leaving out on old friends, time punctuality, and scrutiny check in terms of how far and wide have things been made available to them. What parents need to realize is that if their children are involved in such innate and reoccurring practices is due to parent's indifference and unavailability of being with them at the time they are most required.

The reason why the concept 'generation gap' has become prevalent is because of the fact that parents do not treat their children their age; either they will treat them like infants their entire lives or give them so much responsibility that they cannot handle being termed the eldest or elder in the house. That is the one reason children do not bond with parents accordingly; according to statistics, all those people who are into drugs and alcohol are always at the risk of losing their connection with their parents while they are busy in making money and earning themselves and their families a respectable position and living in the society. Now here, both the parents and the children are on their own right path; just like a case-study, where a dilemma is prevalent between right versus right, finding the perfect balance requires constant and iterated responses.

My initial reaction as a parent was completely devastated. I immediately went into a state of denial and grief that I couldn't cater my child in the best possible way although I skinned her from my blood, brought her up, gave her all good things ...