CONFLICT SCRIPTS AND STYLES

Conflict scripts and styles



Conflict scripts and styles

1. Define conflict script

Conflict script is a script defining the conflicts and elaborating different means of conflicts. It is considered as the dispute or misunderstanding between two or more persons. These conflicts can be either in families, organizations, or with the class mates and friends. Conflicts can be unilateral or bilateral. A conflict is unilateral when only one party complaint. For example, if a tenant fails to pay the rent without reason, we can say that the owner has a unilateral conflict (Blake 2004). Moreover, in a bilateral conflict, everyone wants something from the other. If the tenant does not pay because the heating does not work, there is a leaky roof or broken leg because he had a broken rung on the ladder, then he and the owner has proposed a bilateral problem. The tenant wants the repairs the owner wants his money. If neither yields, to the demands of the other, there is a conflict between the two parties.

This is the most basic definition of conflict. But it is not as simple as it seems, because often one-sided conflicts are disguised bilateral conflicts. When a party apparently seems to have no complaints or reason for aggressive behavior, may not realize that on an unconscious level is furious with the other person.

Take for example, the dispute between landlord and tenant. The tenant has not paid and not because he does not have the money or because the owner is negligent. It is a passive-aggressive stance that has no rational explanation cannot figure out why their own actions. Simply "forgets" to send the check. But in reality, what happens is that several months ago the owner met him in the supermarket and not even deigns to say hello (Bingham 2007). The tenant found it strange at the time, and even a bit bothered. But the incident was an unconscious result was manifested in delaying rent payments.

2. What conflict script did you learn in your family? Think back to your childhood and adolescence and try to remember what implicit rules for conflict your family modeled and perhaps taught.

When a family is adrift, and without clear direction, we say that there is a conflict. In simple words, a tense situation puts pressure on the family and requires some dynamic changes that stabilize. The roles, values ??and objectives, are lost and confused to the extent that the conflict continues to remain in the system. The problems, crises and conflicts in the family do need a change, which in turn lead to redefine a new set of relationships (Blake 2004).

In my family, I learnt different conflict scripts. The main conflict script learnt in my family was a conflict between my parents. My parents always used to fight and were opposing to each other. Thus, it was the main conflict script which I leant in my family. In order to manage my family conflict, I have gone through different implicit rules and ...